Crying Over Spilt Milk

As we fall back into the trap of the past, we must remind ourselves that...

What's done is done. But what if it happened differently? If only A had done X, or if B had not wronged Y, then maybe C would be on it's way to Z. Whatever the case may be, my experiences have taught me just what a waste of time replaying it out, really is.

All you can do is fully focus on what is right in front of you, and not get lost in what is behind you nor what lies ahead. Life has it's natural progression. As my Mother once said, be studious when it's time to be a student; be hard-working when it's time to perform; be extreme when it's time to play. She emphasized the importance of doing things in order and not losing sight of what was important at the moment. Wishing you are doing something while you are supposed to do another will get you stuck in the position you don't want to be in. And all those who focused on the right thing at the right time will succeed over you.

The order of operations may be important. But what is equally important, if not more, is the concept of follow through and completion. If there are loose ends that need to be tied up, they should be. Those left undone could really cause more damage than one could ever imagine.

Even with this optimistic attitude, sometimes I still wish I could turn back the hands of time to make amends. But the fact is simple, we just can't go back. Those lessons, although extremely saddening, are what changes us and moves us. They are precious to life.

May every bitterswet parting be annointed with serenity and forgiveness...

"If you have made mistakes, there is always another chance for you. You may have a fresh start any moment you choose, for this thing we call 'failure' is not the falling down, but the staying down." - Mary Pickford