Control Freak

I think no matter how hard I've tried to convince myself that letting go of the control is critical in achieving happiness, I've "held on" to many things that I know are out of my control.

But today I was shown once AGAIN, the true meaning of letting go of control. By example, I was shown through an email just how simple it really is.

IM put it like this: it doesn't mean if someone else feels bad because of you that it is your duty to feel guilt for it. You simply address the issue, and clarify what the intention was. And then you leave it at that, whereas I would have assumed responsbility for causing the negative feeling.

I realized that it doesn't mean if someone feels bad that you should immediately try to take it in your hands and control the outcome of how they feel. Sometimes it really is out of our control. By changing your action you may or may have not had an impact on the person.

We have no control over someone else's feelings and if it really isn't something you intended, then standing your ground to understand and clarify for the "supposed victim" is all you can really do. It's once you back down and doubt yourself that the trouble starts.